Today, introverts can finally live to their fullest. Being inner-directed and less talkative is
acceptable these days but considered ‘cool.’ But, introversion can sometimes be mistaken by its more reserved and self-conscious yet treatable relative, ‘social anxiety.’
For the more reserved people and tend to be less talkative, the two types (introversion and social anxiety) often get mixed. Many people take social anxiety as a form of being too introverted. In reality, a person can be both socially anxious introvert or socially anxious extrovert. For instance, and you may need to go to the bar with your colleagues yet stress they don’t need you there. On the other hand, you may desire organization yet fixate on the chance you’ll state something idiotic. However, these two terms are unique. A long way from being a mental tomato-tomhato, the two are more similar to apple and orange.
Let’s take a look at the main differences between the similar terms:
Introversion is by birth while Social anxiety is developed
Inner-directedness is a piece of your distinctive character—a from-the-womb, coloured in-the-wool trait. And keeping in mind that the individuals who are socially on edge likewise convey a hereditary inclination toward it. There’s something beyond demeanour at play. In an indelicate relationship, hereditary qualities stack the firearm. However, experience pulls the trigger.
There are two root causes of social anxiety. The first is knowing, knowing mistakenly that we are less than the others around us. We have absorbed the worries that we would look ‘weird’ to our neighbours because of our parents’ fretting. We absorb the social pressure to be “out-going” when we aren’t and hence might have been bullied by such causes. This bullying and the feel of being different creates a social trauma inside our minds. Thus we grow up believing that people will always judge us and find us inferior.
The second cause of social anxiety is avoidance behaviour. We rush out by the end of any meeting so that we don’t have to get into small talks with our colleagues. We make excuses not to attend a party or keep on staring at our phones and not pick them up just because we feel anxious. All these behaviours of avoiding a social condition make us even more nervous. We keep on running away from social situations. Thus we don’t get a chance to see that the social stuff isn’t as bad as we have been thinking all our lives.
Solitude feels good in introversion
The second difference between being socially anxious and introverted is that you’ll find peace in solitude if you are an introvert. In contrast, if you are socially anxious, privacy is just an escape from anxiety. There is a fine line between the two. Thus more detail is required. Self observers acquire energy by being separated from everyone else, coordinated, or in a little gathering of confided in friends. In case you’re a thoughtful person, being in isolation is reviving and energizes your batteries.
Conversely, social uneasiness is driven by dread. Being separated from everyone else makes you less on edge, which may feel better. However, it’s more a liberating sensation than bliss. You may advise yourself, “I couldn’t care less,” about going to that gathering or turning down that greeting. Yet where it counts, evading individuals leaves you desolate or shaky. Be that as it may, the drive to make nervousness disappear is solid. So you may escape occasions you might want to go to inspired by a paranoid fear of making an idiot of yourself, getting dismissed, or feeling off-kilter.
Compulsiveness lays the ripe ground for social anxiety
A long way from fifty shades of grey, your social insight is dark or white in social uneasiness. You think you’ll either accomplish an immaculate social presentation or are bound to wind up on a YouTube reel named “Epic Social Fails.” This win significant or bust methodology (no critical factor or anything!) makes us believe that the best way to fight off unavoidable cruel analysis is to be effortlessly smart and beguiling. What’s more, that, like this, causes us to feel incapacitated.
So, even though at first social anxiety and introversion might look the same. There is a massive difference between the two when you step into the two types of people’s shoes. But the good news is that while introversion is not a problem at all, social anxiety is curable. Furthermore, dealing with it won’t change his independent character. In reality, it doesn’t have to. In any case, it can dial down the dread and recalibrate that social smoke alarm.
Also, that is never inept, regardless of how you state it.